Hi there, loves! It’s Cherie DeVille here, and I’m so thrilled you’ve stopped by to chat about one of my favorite topics: sex! Over the years, I’ve had the privilege of exploring intimacy in ways most people can only dream about. As both a porn star and a former physical therapist, I bring a unique perspective to the sex tips conversation. Let’s talk about how you can enhance your sex life—physically, emotionally, and even spiritually.
Whether you’re a seasoned lover or just beginning to explore your desires, these tips will help you unlock new levels of pleasure, connection, and confidence. So, grab your favorite beverage, get comfy, and let’s dive into the wonderful world of sexual well-being!
1. Communication: The Foreplay You’re Missing
Let’s start with a truth bomb: great sex begins outside the bedroom. The secret? Communication. Talking openly with your partner about your desires, boundaries, and fantasies builds trust and deepens your connection. Nervous about where to start? Here are some tips:
Set the Scene: Choose a relaxed time and place—over dinner or while cuddling on the couch—to have a conversation about what you enjoy.
Start Small: If diving into your deepest fantasies feels intimidating, begin by sharing something simple, like a position you’ve always wanted to try.
Use Resources: Books, podcasts, and even adult content can help spark a conversation. Watching a tasteful scene together could lead to an honest dialogue about what turns you on.
Remember, being vulnerable takes courage, but the payoff—more intimate and satisfying sex—is so worth it.
2. Warm Up Your Body: The Importance of Physical Fitness
Now, let’s get physical! As a former physical therapist, I can’t emphasize enough how important it is to keep your body in shape for an active sex life. Sex is a workout (a really fun one!), and like any physical activity, your performance improves when your body is prepared.
My Top Sex-Enhancing Exercises:
Kegels: These strengthen your pelvic floor muscles, which can lead to more powerful orgasms. Squeeze like you’re stopping the flow of urine, hold for a few seconds, and release. Do this 10 times, three times a day.
Hip Flexor Stretches: A flexible pelvis makes a world of difference. Try lunges or butterfly stretches to open up those hips.
Core Workouts: A strong core supports better thrusting, stamina, and balance. Think planks, sit-ups, or yoga poses like boat pose.
And don’t forget—exercise increases blood flow, which is key to arousal. Your body will thank you, and so will your partner!
3. Foreplay Is Everything
Ladies and gentlemen, let’s not skip the appetizers. Foreplay isn’t just a warm-up; it’s an essential part of the meal. Here’s why:
Builds Anticipation: Slow, teasing touches build tension and excitement.
Prepares the Body: Foreplay increases blood flow to erogenous zones, enhances lubrication, and gets you both ready for penetration.
Deepens Connection: Taking your time to explore each other’s bodies fosters intimacy.
Try sensual massages, kissing (not just on the lips!), and oral sex. Use your hands, your mouth, and even toys to create a variety of sensations. Trust me, the longer you take, the better it will be when you finally come together.
Think of foreplay as an adventure.
4. Get to Know Your Erogenous Zones
Here’s a fun homework assignment: explore your body! There are so many areas beyond the obvious that can bring pleasure.
Hidden Hotspots:
Neck and Ears: Soft kisses or gentle nibbling can send shivers down your spine.
Inner Thighs: Teasing this area heightens anticipation.
Lower Back: Light touches here can be incredibly arousing.
Feet: Not everyone loves this, but for some, a good foot massage is an aphrodisiac.
Encourage your partner to do the same. Think of it as a playful, sexy experiment to discover what lights you both up.
5. Experiment with Positions
Variety is the spice of life! Trying new positions keeps things exciting and helps you find what feels best for your body. Consider positions that work with, not against, your anatomy.
A Few Favorites:
Missionary with a Twist: Place a pillow under your hips for deeper penetration.
Cowgirl: You’re in control of depth and angle, making it perfect for hitting all the right spots.
Spoon: A gentle, intimate position that’s easy on the joints.
Doggy Style: Great for G-spot stimulation and adding a little spice.
Switching things up doesn’t just feel good physically; it also adds an element of surprise that can reignite passion.
6. Toys Are Your Friends
Sex toys aren’t just for solo play—they can be an incredible addition to partner sex. If you’ve never used one with a partner, start with something simple like a bullet vibrator or a cock ring. If you’re solo and have a penis, I can’t recommend my MainSqueeze toy enough! Here’s why they’re amazing:
Enhance Sensation: Vibrations can stimulate areas that hands and mouths can’t.
Bridge the Gap: If one partner finishes early, toys can help keep the fun going.
Explore Together: Using toys as a couple fosters communication and trust.
Don’t know where to start? Many websites and stores offer guides to help you choose the right toy for your needs.
And remember, there’s no right or wrong way to use them—it’s all about what feels good for you.
7. Focus on Aftercare
Aftercare isn’t just for BDSM play—it’s an essential part of any sexual experience. Taking a few moments to reconnect after sex helps solidify the emotional bond and leaves you both feeling satisfied and cared for.
Ideas for Aftercare:
Cuddle: Physical closeness releases oxytocin, the “love hormone.”
Talk: Share what you loved about the experience.
Hydrate: A glass of water and a snack can help you recover.
Clean Up Together: Showering or tidying up together can be surprisingly intimate.
Think of aftercare as the cherry on top of a wonderful experience.
8. Sexual Health Matters
I can’t stress enough how important it is to take care of your sexual health. Regular check-ups, open communication with your doctor, and practicing safe sex are non-negotiables.
Pro Tips:
Use Protection: Condoms, dental dams, and regular STI screenings keep you safe.
Track Your Cycle: For those with periods, apps can help you understand how hormones affect your libido.
Stay Informed: Learn about your body and any changes it’s going through. Knowledge is power!
Remember, a healthy body is a sexy body.
9. Mindfulness in the Bedroom
Being present is one of the most powerful ways to enhance your sexual experiences. Mindfulness allows you to fully enjoy the sensations, emotions, and connection of the moment.
How to Practice Mindfulness During Sex:
Focus on Your Breath: Deep, steady breaths keep you grounded.
Tune Into Sensations: Pay attention to how your partner’s touch feels.
Block Out Distractions: Put away your phone and create a space where you can focus solely on each other.
When you’re fully present, even the simplest touch can feel electric.
10. Don’t Forget About Self-Love
Let’s end with a reminder that your relationship with yourself is just as important as your relationship with your partner. Exploring your own body, understanding your desires, and treating yourself with kindness will make you a better lover.
Self-Love Practices:
Masturbation: Learn what makes you tick so you can share that knowledge with your partner.
Affirmations: Celebrate your body and its capabilities. Stand in front of a mirror and say, “I am sexy, and I deserve pleasure.”
Pamper Yourself: Treat yourself to lingerie, a bubble bath, or anything else that makes you feel sensual.
When you love and accept yourself, it becomes so much easier to connect with someone else.
There you have it, my loves—a blend of sexy and practical tips to help you elevate your intimacy. Remember, sex is as much about joy and connection as it is about physical pleasure. Whether you’re spicing up a long-term relationship or embarking on a new adventure, the key is to stay curious, open, and authentic.
Until next time, keep exploring, keep loving, and most importantly, keep being your fabulous selves.
XOXO, Cherie DeVille
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